This month is the worst month i have ever come across in my life... Starting of this month my maternal granny expired... After that on second week of the month , my friend's grandpa got expired... In third week my dad's periyama expired... Also heard one of another friend's grandpa expired.... What a deathly month it is????
But people who have expired were in their 80's and 90's , suddenly everybody i know getting expired is something unbearable... I was chatting with my dad about this yesterday, he said its their age factor we can't do anything... Also added up , that my grandma and his periyama have really lived a long life and in future life span of the individuals will be very less...
Here goes the superstitious stuffs or something my family follow strictly is theetu when somebody in our family expires... For my granny it was only 3 days for us since she was my maternal relation... Coming my dad's periyama we have it for 10 days along with that no festivals should be celebrated for one year by us... I may agree for mourning their death for 3 or 10 days is ok, but this one year non celebration is really bugging me big time...
For last 3 yrs someone or else in my dad's family have been dying whom even my dad doesn't know and we are forced non celebrate it... Last 3 years i was not questioning much about these stuffs to my parents, but thus time asked why are following stuffs like this??? My mom answered there is no explanation why we are doing like this , but what we are is good for our family.... Is any non celebration is good for the family and family members...??
Coming to this theetu stuff its supposed to kept for 10 days if any relations in my dad side is expired... Then here comes a question its to be kept for 1st and 2nd link of relations right??? In my dad side they follow this for 4th and 5th link relations... This really sucks big time... I remember last time we kept this for 4th link relation whom even my dad don't know but since my periyapa ordered us to do so...
My question is if somebody expires the mourning for them for few minutes and praying for their soul to rest in peace is more than enough, but why people are following like these theetu stuffs and non celebrations...???? Will this thing get stopped with me parents or even my brother and i have to follow this???
p.s: This time no Diwali... Also actually nobody in a mood to celebrate it too...
I'm done with my blogger block at last :)
But people who have expired were in their 80's and 90's , suddenly everybody i know getting expired is something unbearable... I was chatting with my dad about this yesterday, he said its their age factor we can't do anything... Also added up , that my grandma and his periyama have really lived a long life and in future life span of the individuals will be very less...
Here goes the superstitious stuffs or something my family follow strictly is theetu when somebody in our family expires... For my granny it was only 3 days for us since she was my maternal relation... Coming my dad's periyama we have it for 10 days along with that no festivals should be celebrated for one year by us... I may agree for mourning their death for 3 or 10 days is ok, but this one year non celebration is really bugging me big time...
For last 3 yrs someone or else in my dad's family have been dying whom even my dad doesn't know and we are forced non celebrate it... Last 3 years i was not questioning much about these stuffs to my parents, but thus time asked why are following stuffs like this??? My mom answered there is no explanation why we are doing like this , but what we are is good for our family.... Is any non celebration is good for the family and family members...??
Coming to this theetu stuff its supposed to kept for 10 days if any relations in my dad side is expired... Then here comes a question its to be kept for 1st and 2nd link of relations right??? In my dad side they follow this for 4th and 5th link relations... This really sucks big time... I remember last time we kept this for 4th link relation whom even my dad don't know but since my periyapa ordered us to do so...
My question is if somebody expires the mourning for them for few minutes and praying for their soul to rest in peace is more than enough, but why people are following like these theetu stuffs and non celebrations...???? Will this thing get stopped with me parents or even my brother and i have to follow this???
p.s: This time no Diwali... Also actually nobody in a mood to celebrate it too...
I'm done with my blogger block at last :)
mourning and no celebrations are just to pay respect ...nothing else ..
ReplyDeletetheetu and all is just bull shit ..
for those who are nearby a dead body its ok ..scientifically its because after death the body is more prone bacterial attack and theetu is practiced so it does not spread ..
other things are just senseless .. our forefathers have been following it all blindly without knowing the reason for all them ..
@ arvind
ReplyDeleteno celebration for close relatives is ok... For some unknown people who u have even seen face is can't stop my clelebrations... what u say??
Totally agree with your theetu explanation :)
Yes ofcourse ..thats ur wish ...and if ur parents allow :D
ReplyDelete@ arvind
ReplyDeleteu know my parents... They are pretty much strict... So no celebrations only...
Well i went through something similar last year when my grand ma expired.
ReplyDeleteI am amazed at the age they expire but this so called current generation i doubt would cross 50 or 60 very difficult!
i dont question any of the customs! they have been doing it for years there must be some reason for it!
@ nirmal
ReplyDeleteI think u r that chamathu boy who never question about any customs but im not that chamathu :P sometimes i get irritated with these customs :|
Yeah current generation life span very less as u said...
keep visiting :)
I dono why quiet a lotta people sobb about them not being able to celebrate..
ReplyDeletewhy aren't the people thinking about the various other ways of celebration ..
will come with a post about it for sure.. :)
Isn't diwali about bringing enlightment to others lives :)
@ whacky
ReplyDeleteWhen im not able to celebrate obviously i can only sobb about it... You may tell me other options to celebrate :)
yaa it really brings enlightment in our life :)
May u have a great november!!
ReplyDelete@ teky
ReplyDeleteim really having a great nov :)
According to me , the customs were made during the times when science was not advanced. There was no sense of reasoning probably either. But in Present times it is very difficult to follow these customs and moreover there are 5 different takes from 5 different people on how to follow them.. So Jus Chillax and hey i have started following your blog....
ReplyDelete@ harry
ReplyDeletewelcome to my space :)
you are absolutely correct...
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